If you are, it may be a while. Not because it won't happen, but because you may not recognize it the first time around.
What is this elusive right?
It's the belief that our lives will change for the better once the right opportunity arrives.
Once that happens, we tell ourselves, we'll know we are where we are supposed to be, doing what we are meant to do. Birds will be singing and the sun will be shining. We won't question ourselves because this time it will be right.
Unfortunately while you're holding out for the right circumstances, you very likely are missing something right under your nose.
Right now, right in front of you, opportunities are lining up in your inbox, or hiding behind a friend's out-of-the-blue invitation to coffee.
If you are dreaming of the right opportunity to change your life and career for the better, ask yourself: What is already in front of me?
Don't see anything? You may need a little perspective shifting first.
Because when we convince ourselves that the right thing is just around the corner, it is assumed that we will know what it is when it arrives.
That's the trick, really.
Your ability to recognize the fantastic when it knocks on your door may be the only reason why it hasn't knocked yet. Or has it?!
When we dream of the right thing arriving, we also believe that it will be so obvious that there is no way we will miss it. I know I'm not the only one who has wished for a giant flashing arrow to point me in the direction I should take.
I hate to break it to both of us, but there will be no flashing arrow. More than that, you may not know that this is right for you, that this is what you've been hoping and holding out for, for months. Long after you've taken a step or two to see what could happen.
What else? What's right doesn't look how you think it will. It can look the opposite, in fact.
So many success stories begin with, "I never thought..."
Those people found what was right for them, because they were willing to look where others would have walked past while waiting for right to present itself.
It means that you are going to have to give things a chance to be right.
So while you're wishing on this new year to bring you everything you ever hoped (I wish that wholeheartedly for you too!), add these to your to-do list:
- Take a second and third look.
- Answer the phone even though you don't recognize the number.
- Go on an adventure.
- Make a list of things you would never do, and then do some of them.
- Walk down a new street, meet a new person, and see what happens.
- Find yourself saying, "Why not?"
- Surprise yourself.
- Surprise loved ones who "can't believe you're doing that."
And when you do them, please let me know. I can't wait to hear about it!
Wishes come true when we dare ourselves out of our comfort zone.
Happy new year, new career, new life. I believe in you.